The Papa's role

My little guy just went down for a nap after a harrowing morning of crying and screaming. B tries to soothe him while I sleep BUT after like an hour of crying and screaming, I had to give him an A for effort and take over. For whatever reason, he hasn't quite mastered his role as a soother. It's natural for a mother to soothe her baby but for some men it can be a challenge. I was reminded of a poster on a forum I frequent saying that she delayed having a baby for awhile because she couldn't get over the inequality of responsibility between mother and father. I mean purely by biology, the baby depends on the mother more from day 1. Breastfeeding as a prime example. I am realizing this more and more. My own mother makes little remarks sometimes about my father's minimal role in our childhood and how he now has "finally joined the family". She even commented that he probably only changed me and my brother's diapers twice. B claims the baby just feels more comfortable with me as his maman. That I am softer and he is just is more attached to me naturally. I think I am going to develop a 30 minute rule: If B can't successfully soothe the baby in 30 minutes, I will take over. Because an hour of screaming, fussing and crying is horrible. I mean, the stress that put on the baby's nervous system and the stress on me and B... B is getting some well deserved sleep right now. Oh parenthood... Last night we rushed to finish dinner before the baby woke up from his nap. Sometimes we take turns eating while one of us holds the baby. He looks like such a little angel when he sleeps...no one would guess he would be capable of raising such a ruckus! Anyway he is up now so I better hurry up and eat breakfast!